IFS therapist Jenna Riemersma brings her knowledge and experience to this conversation with Deedra and Megan. They discuss: facing pain instead of running away; the three steps in her Move Toward movement; the spiritualizer parts most Christians have; and how society is a reflection of all the parts.
Best-selling author, speaker and therapist, Jenna Riemersma (https://jennariemersma.com/) is the Clinical Director of the Atlanta Center for Relational Healing. Jenna is a Harvard graduate, trauma specialist, and IFS therapist. Her book, Altogether You, was recently Amazon's #1 hot new release in Spirituality and Self Help. Jenna has been happily married for over 20 years, is a proud mom of two adult children, an animal lover, and a yoga enthusiast.
Kami Amsden joins the podcast and discusses her journey through discovering that she's an enneagram Three and what that has looked like in her relationship with the Lord. She also shares about her own IFS experiences, including how she met a part of herself and what it felt like to reassign that part a new role in her life.
Kami is from the St. Louis metro-east area and works in interior design when she's not driving her four children to their activities and keeping her pastor husband in line. She also serves on the board for Dauntless Grace.
Megan and Deedra spend some time talking about all the goodness in the last few episodes about Internal Family Systems. They briefly break down the IFS concepts and vocabulary and explain how this map has been a great companion to enneagram work. They each describe their own journeys with IFS and the transformative tool it has been in their own lives.
Megan and Deedra have the honor of speaking with Dr. Alison Cook today! Alison dives further into IFS with us, and she even walks us through the process in a really clear example. You don't want to miss the grace and wisdom she brings to the conversation, especially as she reflects on the work God does in our souls and how sometimes we can spiritually bypass that inner healing.
Alison Cook, MA, PhD is a psychologist and the author of two books, including her new book, The Best of You (Thomas Nelson 2022) and Boundaries for Your Soul (Thomas Nelson, 2018). For over 20 years, Alison has helped women, ministry leaders, couples, and families learn how to heal painful emotions, develop confidence from the inside out, forge healthy relationships, and fully live out their God-given potential. You can connect with her at her website and sign up for freebies!
Deedra and Megan welcome enneagram expert Joan Ryan to the podcast today! Joan talks about the overlay of enneagram and IFS, stress and security moves, how understanding your type can expand your freedom, and what each type’s focus of attention is. Joan's wisdom of the narrative tradition of the enneagram is unparalleled.
Joan Ryan has been teaching the enneagram to individuals, groups, businesses and organizations for more than 20 years. Using the experience gained in her previous practice as an attorney, she built a leadership coaching career which expanded into many sectors and internationally. When she found IFS she saw the possibilities of interweaving the two models as a very positive enhancement to both systems. She had the unusual honor of being directly mentored by two of the premier enneagram teachers, Helen Palmer and the late Dr. David Daniels. Her most recent work, with Tammy Sollenberger, focuses on the intersections between the enneagram and Internal Family Systems therapy. She lives in Boston.
Join Deedra and Megan as they welcome guest Tammy Sollenberger. Tammy, a licensed clinical mental health counselor, introduces our listeners to Internal Family Systems (IFS), a therapy model for bringing our full selves into more wholeness and integration. Tammy is the host of the The One Inside podcast and the author of The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self. In this episode, Tammy explains what IFS is, why it's important, and some practical ways to start looking inside! You can connect with Tammy at tammysollenberger.com.
This episode is a bridge! Deedra and Megan have been laying the groundwork for a few weeks, and it's time to reveal what's coming up on the podcast. But first, we're following up the conversation from last week about emotions by talking about:
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Doctoral student Becky Castle Miller joins Megan and Deedra to discuss all things regarding emotions: how the church has handled (or mishandled) emotions; the gendering of emotions in our society; how we construct the concept of emotions; and how Jesus experienced and expressed emotions in the New Testament. This conversation was enlightening and engaging, and we were all sorry to cut it short!
Becky Castle Miller writes and speaks on emotional, mental, and spiritual health in the church. She recently graduated from Northern Seminary with a master's in New Testament Context, studying with Scot McKnight. Her discipleship workbook with Dr. McKnight is called Following King Jesus. She is working on a new book about Jesus's emotions. She and her husband and their five kids and cat returned to the US after living in the Netherlands for eight years, where she worked at an international church. She is the Program Manager for Seminary Now.
You can find Becky on Twitter or Instagram @bcastlemiller.
Join Deedra and Megan as they discuss what it means, as a woman, to find your voice. They share about the parts of themselves that have often held them back from finding and expressing their voice, and they talk about how the process of wholeness and re-integration has led them into being people who can more easily use their voice to bring others into the presence of God.
Deedra and Megan start by talking about why it's important to have crucial conversations, but they're not necessarily talking about having these conversations with others. They make the case why it's crucial to have a conversation within ourselves. If humans have a large variety of emotions and experiences internally, it's important to identify those, sit with them, and discern what those emotions are telling us. They also dive into the passions or sins -- what they call the most difficult emotions -- for each enneagram number. For more information on the enneagram, schedule a free consultation.
Megan and Deedra discuss what life feels like now they're entering into (or are well into) their 40s. While their bodies might be aging, they're both experiencing what it means to bring their emotions and mind into integration in themselves. The armor they've worn for decades is slipping away as they realize that what once served them no longer does. Also, listen for them discuss the cognitive dissonance of feeling like a different age than they are or what a mid-life crisis really is for most people. Plus a sneak peek into some of the new tools Dauntless Grace is implementing to bring people into more healing and wholeness.
After a new retreat, Deedra and Megan decide to share an old episode in order to offer a recap of the mini-retreats they've been hosting over the past year. Even with years of learning about the enneagram, they're both stunned at how there's always new revelation on each retreat. They also share their experiences of entering a healing journey with God. Sometimes it takes a dauntless grace to move forward in the process, but it's always worth it in the end. This podcast was recorded in July 2021, so the Colorado retreat has already occurred. But we still want you to be part of future weekends! To host a retreat in your community, fill out the form here.
There are a lot of places in our lives where we have to interact--friendships, marriages, church, events, social media--but what does it look to show up as our authentic selves and in vulnerability? Deedra and Megan talk about what transparency isn't, but as they talk, they begin to realize that authenticity and vulnerability always starts with inner healing and wholeness. Where is one place where you can show up without those protective layers in order to serve someone else? Call us and let us know at (314)384-9109!
Galentine's Day is this weekend, so we wanted to use this time to talk about friendship! Friendship is weird, and there aren't a lot of great definitions for different types of friends. We spend some time defining what friendship is and what kinds of friends we need, and we use the book Big Friendship by Ann Friedman and Aminatou Sow as a resource. Also, we offer some practical tips for anyone looking and longing for a deep connection. But we also want to hear from you! How do you manage those Big Friendships? Call and let us know! (314)384-9109.
Deedra and Megan have a conversation about dreams--not the dreams they have for the future, but the lay-your-head-on-the-pillow dreams they have at night. They don't claim to be experts, but they talk about dreams, how they've affected decisions before, and what it means when they think God is speaking to them through dreams. Do you dream? Call and tell them about it at (314)384-9109!