"It's not that Fives are bereft of feelings, it's that they struggle to hold them long enough to articulate them with someone else."
-Suzanne Stabile

Brief Overview

  • Fives are one of the lowest energy numbers of all numbers. They start each day with a measured amount of energy, and when it’s gone, it’s gone. They can’t muster up more.
  • Their most important priority is independence. They want adequate resources so they don’t have to depend on anyone else. But they feel like they don’t have enough inner resources.
  • Fives want to manage fear with knowing. They want predictability. They’re analytical and think things through in the absence of emotions.
  • In fact, they’re the most emotionally detached of all the types, but being able to let feelings go doesn’t mean they don’t have them. 

In Relationship

  • Fives value privacy and alone time and need it to recharge. They will share pieces of self with multiple people, but not often whole self with one person.
  • It uses a lot of energy to show up for a relationship, so you know it's important when a Five shows up.
  • Fives will never spill your secrets, so they expect that theirs are kept as well.
  • Fives are extremely loyal.
  • They appreciate knowing what the expectations are so they can mentally prepare.
  • Fives don’t want to burden others. But Fives need to be reassured that they aren’t a burden.

Withdrawing Stance

Stances are formed by which of the centers of intelligence is repressed. For Fives, it is doing. ​
Fives are probably often doing things, but often what they are doing is unproductive. Fives spend a lot of time researching an action or decision and then don't move forward into that action. They focus their attention on whatever intrigues them, not whatever needs to be done next. Fives hesitate to accomplish because they fear they haven't yet learned enough to be successful.