You and I have bought into a lie. It was not intentional on your part or mine. Slowly but surely, we have fallen deeper and deeper into its grasp. This lie has invaded our communities, our culture, and even our churches. I do not believe this lie was meant to harm us; no, the harm came when we took hold of it and ran away with it. We gave it more meaning than it was ever meant to have. We are the ones who gave it the wings now beating us senseless.
What is the lie you and I believe?
We are enough.
I know, I am as shocked as you are. We are going to have to do some exploring to discover why the “you are enough” mantra is a lie. Additionally, we are going to have to be honest. Yes, we are going to have to take a good, honest look at what those three little words mean, and at our own selves (gulp). But, we are women who desire freedom. There is no freedom in lies. We long to walk in truth because truth sets us free.
You are enough. We read it, and we see it splashed across social media. How desperately we want to believe we are good, that we do not need to compare ourselves to others any longer. In our comparisons, we have begun to feel less than, and we are tired of it. Enough is enough because I am enough we declare! We raise our fists and dare anyone to defy us. But sister, can I tell you what I have recently found?
I am not enough. It is not because I am not as fashionable, successful, or as put together as the women around me. The fact that I am not enough, and neither are you, has absolutely nothing to do with worthless comparisons. It has everything to do with our need for Christ.
I had begun to believe the lie myself and have even written posts about it, but I now see its fallacy. If I am enough, I do not need Christ. Being enough, I do not need community, accountability, or encouragement. You see, if I am enough, and I am fine just the way I am, then I do not need refining, redemption, or grace. If I am enough, I do not need to understand the Cross for what it was. My mornings no longer need to be spent reading Scripture or in prayer. Why? Because I am enough.
Iam the vine, you are the branches; he who abides in Me and I in him, he bears much fruit, for apart from Me, you can do nothing. (John 15:5, NASB)
Do you see the lie now?
The truth revealed itself to me only days ago. Right between the eyes, truth smacked me. I am not enough, and that is okay. God has given us gifts, strengths, and talents to use for His glory. Our lack does not undermine His creation and purpose for my life. Our lack does make room for more of Him. Admitting, on our own, we are definitely not enough, we can allow Christ to work in and through us. I can be honest. Apart from Christ, I am prone to engineering the Hot Mess Express.
Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come (2 Corinthians 5:17).
No, we are not enough. On our own, we will fall miserably short. If I were enough, I would not lose my temper and yell at my child. If I were enough, I would not need mentors in my life. If I were enough, I would have no use for you. The truth is, I am not enough. I need God’s grace, mercy, and direction in my life. I need wise mentors to speak honestly with me. I need you. I need your gifts, your strengths, and your wisdom. We are not enough, and that is okay.
Michelle Discavage is the author of “Unnamed Women of the Bible: Lessons of Value, Belonging, and Worth,” a speaker, and a certified life purpose coach. She can often be found laughing, and is known to be somewhat of a pot stirrer. Michelle is on a mission to gather #brokedownhomegirls across the country to rise up and take their rightful place as God’s daughters.
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